All successful people are highly competitive. They have a competitive nature that is unique. These people hate not winning… and I mean HATE. They use this hatred and fear of losing to drive them to dominate in whatever they do. I understand that losing and failing is apart of life, but man do I hate it. I think I die a little inside when I lose. You know how they say smoking a pack of cigarettes takes a day off your life? I think losing takes a day off mine!
Competition is important but it is imperative to maintain a healthy competitive spirit. There is no point if you are going to be unethical and immoral. What is the point of winning if you have to cheat to get there? Personally, that to me is worse than failing. Failure you can come back from and learn from your mistakes. Cheating you will always think back at how you didn’t really win but you rigged the system.
Competitive Spirits in Today’s Society
There are many ways where you can see competitive spirits, at work. One of my favorites is happening right now, in the NBA finals. The Golden State Warriors are facing the Cleveland Cavaliers, for the 4th time, in the past 4 years. These guys are raw competitors. I tip my hats to both teams. Games will get intense. They put it all on the line and perform at high levels. Not only that but they steamroll anyone, in their conferences, that gets in their way.
Whenever I watch these teams face off, I look out for what separates them from the other teams. There is a significant difference, in confidence, between the Cavs and Warriors and any other NBA team. These guys know they are great and back up their confidence with performing. They know if they don’t perform then their legacies will be tarnished (check out why performance based jobs are so important here). I love how they are not afraid to back down from a challenge! Both teams are, at the biggest stage, and aren’t afraid to scrap and fight and do what they have to do to win. Most importantly, they will stop at nothing until they bring home the championship. They never quit on their goals, teammates, or themselves. I admire the competitive spirit of both these great teams.
I normally, boast about Michael Jordan because I think he is the greatest competitor, in sports history, but I decided to keep it relevant. If you ever want to learn about an assassin of a competitor do some research on MJ. Respect to Kevin Durant and Lebron James. Those two go at it like Mario and Bowser. Only they are fighting over the NBA championship instead of Peach… you know my guy KD is Mario though.
How to Ignite Your Competitive Fire
Everyone has a competitive drive. I am a firm believer that some people just unleash their competitive nature more than others. Here are some of the ways that I keep mine burning:
- Let the beast loose. Who cares what people think? Get out there and try and dominate and win. There are winners and losers, in life. I don’t know about you but I would rather be a winner. Try and win in everything you do. I mean you don’t have to go psychotic and destroy kids with cancer, at video games, like Cardale Jones did… true story. But you get the point.
- Quit saying I don’t care or who cares. I can’t stand when people say these things. It’s mostly a defense mechanism where people don’t want to get hurt by losing. I believe it is one of the greatest ways to kill your competitive nature.
- Don’t be a sore loser. No one likes a sore loser. My coaches used to teach me to be humble in victory and gracious in defeat. It took me a while to understand this. If you lose, congratulate the winner and then get out there and bust your ass so it never happens again.
- Set goals and don’t give up on them. People are quitters today. I mean zero commitment and accountability. It’s a sad truth. Don’t allow yourself to become this person. You are better than that. Keep your mind on point by knowing what your goals are. If you fail, at hitting your goal, then you need to change your game plan. Go a different approach. Remember, insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results.
- Get a rival. Take this one old school with the Ash Ketchum and Gary Oak approach. Find your rival and seek to beat them. I gravitate towards finding who is number one and working hard to take them down.
- Challenge yourself. Getting a rival is great and all but I know that any rival is nowhere near my capabilities. I know that I can surpass them so I stick to my own lane. Sometimes, a rival may keep you back. Reason being, if that rival is mediocre then you are aiming surpass mediocre, which may not be categorized as great.
- Learn from the successes of others. The quickest way to learn something is when someone coaches you. You can accelerate your learning. The key is to pick up the successes and not the weaknesses. If you pickup someone’s flaws you will just transform those flaws into your own. Take the key strengths from all the others around you and mold it into your own success formula.
- Take action and take the lead. If you want something go get it. Plain and simple.
- Be relentless. How can you be competitive if you are just going to quit the first time someone tells you you cannot do something? Remember to watch out for those crabs in a bucket.
- Remember your reason why. When you are beat down and on the edge of quitting, you need to remember why you get up everyday. Why do you put up with it all? Why do you seek out success? Everyone has a reason why. It may be their loved one, child, status, self-confidence, whatever it is just remember it when times are tough. That alone will reignite your spark.
Try out these tactics and your competitive fire will be an inferno! I know you will find success if you stick to these steps. I found them to be effective. It will boost your confidence. Always remember that no greats ever found their success by not being competitive. They had to fight for their success everyday. No one is going to hand you anything. Go out and get it.
What do you think of my 10 steps? Which one is your favorite and why?
Get out there and compete for your future success!